Building a Healthy Relationship from the Start | Elizabeth Layton Center | Elizabeth Layton Center
We should all strive to create and build healthy relationships. Often times when you begin dating someone, you may feel that you're spending all of your time. Dating relationships have to start somewhere. Early attraction often involves the physical attributes of the partner and include things Going slowly in making any decisions about a relationship are more likely to be better ones At this stage in a relationship, couples should have a good understanding of their partner's. Building healthy patterns early in your relationship can establish a solid foundation for the long run. When you are just starting a relationship, it is important to.
Some examples are having good communication about what you both want and expect and never feeling like you have to hide who you talk to or hang with from your partner. Examples are when your partner supports you having friends and a life outside of your relationship and not needing to be attached at the hip or know every little detail about your life.
Examples are complimenting you, supporting your hard work and dreams, not trying to push or overstep your boundaries, and sticking up for you.
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EQUALITY You and your partner have the same say and put equal effort into the relationship instead of feeling like one person has more say than the other. Examples are feeling like you are heard in your relationship or feeling comfortable speaking up, making decisions together as opposed to one person calling all the shots, and equally compromising on decisions in your relationship that make the other person feel important or respected.
An important caveat is that it has to be two-sided and displayed equally. You both avoid putting blame on each other and own up to your actions when you do something wrong. Along the way, if you need advice, feel free to contact us. Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect.
In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other abusive behaviors, are — at their root — exertions of power and control. Remember that abuse is always a choice and you deserve to be respected. There is no excuse for abuse of any kind.
Consider these points as you move forward: Understand that a person can only change if they want to. Focus on your own needs. Are you taking care of yourself?
Your wellness is always important. Watch your stress levels, take time to be with friends, get enough sleep. If you find that your relationship is draining you, consider ending it.
Connect with your support systems. Often, abusers try to isolate their partners. Remember, our advocates are always ready to talk if you need a listening ear. Think about breaking up.
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Pushing for an answer; however, may cause real problems in the relationship. Each person needs to listen to their own inner voice and wisdom. There is no need to rush through this important stage and every reason to go slowly.
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Open and honest conversations should be happening as couples plan their present and future together. Questions about children, finances, careers, future goals and lifestyle should be discussed more fully.
Differences are normal and couples will learn about themselves and their relationship as they note how they handle these differences with each other. This is also an important stage for couples to use to evaluate the relationship and their ability to be part of an emotionally intelligent relationship. Engagements can be broken much more easily and can clearly be a better decision than getting married and divorced.